Here's How Mentoring Changes your Life
Mentors are really important people that help us declutter our life when it is burdened by responsibilities. These are the people who help you to grow in your personal as well as professional life. For career success, Mentors are a critical factor as they guide us with the latest organizational skills and abilities.
How does mentoring work? Mentors are well-experienced people that help us in our Profession. They help us shape our Plans and Goals and serve as an advisor. Through the knowledge, a Mentor guides the mentee to identify the opportunities in your professional space and Reflect Accordingly to get the best results.
Recent research was done by Olivet Nazarene University which showed that about 76% of people are aware of mentoring and its importance but only 37% of People currently have a Mentor. Even after knowing about Mentorship and its importance why do 37% of people don’t have a mentor? The most common reason can be a Lack of Understanding about their Importance.
What is the Role of a Mentor?
Some people think that mentoring means sitting in front of some old guys and hearing their lectures. Well, this is not really true. A great mentor is more than just someone who gives out theoretical lectures and lame advice. A great Mentor plays an important role.
A Mentor Shares the Resources
If your mentor just keeps giving you lectures and no practical solution then it is time to find a new mentor. Mentors are people who have great experience in their profession hence a sensible and true mentor would give or share more practical knowledge. They would share the list of resources that they have collected in their tenure to help you tackle your issues.
A Mentor Shares the Experience
Mentors are usually the pros in their respected profession. While you are stuck with a particular scenario a great mentor would help you with practical solutions. Over the years they have collected bits and pieces of their experience and now share them with you. Using the guidance shared by your mentors can surely make things easier and help you overcome the challenges.
Mentors are not all motivational speakers. Although they are optimistic, they do not ask you to blindly follow something. They are a very practical person and as a result, they communicate well. Now, I don’t mean that they speak well but I mean that they will point out and bash you if you make mistakes. This part in mentorship is really the meat that helps you shape your future.
As I said earlier, you will get yourself in a difficult spot with your mentors if you make silly mistakes that come with a cost. This is because they are honest with you. They would not say good things if you do bad. Rather they would point it out and teach you a valuable lesson that would shape you as a person. Their approach to giving feedback is straightforward. If you have a mentor who is overly positive about you, it is a good time to check for a new mentor as Challenges Makes us Stronger
Qualities of a Mentor
Able to Understand your issue
A great mentor is not just some robot where you ask him questions and he gives you the answer. A mentor is someone who understands your issues and shortcoming. A mentor should resonate with your issues and have the ability to address them. Some people have a difficult time describing their issues but a good mentor would resonate easily. This is one of the important qualities of a mentor.
Has a Respectful Attitude
While it is crucial that a mentor is honest with you and points out your shortcomings, there is a way of making a point. A great mentor has a respectful attitude and explains what you are doing wrong and points out the lesson that needs to be learned. However, we’re all humans, and sometimes even a great mentor would lose charge and get angry but that would be either a mistake (which they apologize) or teach you a lesson.
Is Patient with you
Mentoring is an investment in something better and mentors understand that. A great mentor loves what they do and acknowledges that the process is longer. Hence mentors are supposed to be patient by nature. They understand through their experiences that there are no immediate gains hence they don’t give up easily.
They Possess Fantastic Listening Skills
The main purpose of getting a mentor is that they share their experiences and knowledge. One cannot just help you without listening carefully and understand and resonating with your issues. It is critical to find or look for a mentor that is willing to hear your problems and understands your vision of life and provides a valuable solution.
What is the Process of Getting Mentored?
Finding a mentor is critical in today’s world. However, find the right one is more challenging as we keep seeing a lot of so-called mentors. There is a 4 step process in finding the right mentor for you. It is divided into Pre-beginning, Beginning, Middle and End
The Pre-Beginning Process
The Pre-Beginning process deals with getting yourself into the right mindset and preparing yourself for a mentor. Firstly, you identify and acknowledge the issue. In this process, you want to figure out where are you stuck. What is it that requires a mentor? Did you try to get the solution yourself first? Answer these questions to understand the why. Once you know why you need the mentor it is time to find out the best mentor for your problem.
A quick way to find one is to ask within your circle. Ask your friends and family about the Right Mentor. If you have a hard time there, it is time to find your mentor online. The best place if to find mentors in your profession is LinkedIn. Do not start a random cold outreach. Instead, start by asking for quick advice. Make sure you first talk for some time and After a while, you can ask them. The direct approach has been known to work pretty well.
You can use this template to send a message –
I’ve had a pleasant time knowing you and I really admire your Honest and Frank Feedback on [Professional Topic that you had a conversation about days ago]. It really built my confidence and I got to learn so much more. If you were open, I would love to stay connected as I really see you as a mentor. We can maybe schedule monthly meetings to keep you posted about my progress and take some advice or guidance in return. Please don’t feel stressed but I had to try!
Once you send out this message you might face some no’s or might get a yes. Point is to keep trying.
Beginning Process –
Once you’re on your mentoring journey, you then need to clarify your intentions and what you seek from the person. This process involves Mentoring Agreements like what skills you need to learn, how much would they charge, how and when can you set up meetings?
Middle Process –
Hopefully, by now you have clarified your Mentoring Agreements and now it is time to communicate your needs and share your visions and doubts. This process also involves setting realistic goals. These goals could be short-term or long-term depending upon your needs. Let’s say you had started as an Executive in a certain company but now you aim to become a Manager in 2 Years.
In this process, you would also need to clarify the action plans that you must take to get the desired results. These action plans would be different for people across the different professions. A quick example could be Finding out the list of Marketing Skills one week one, Identifying the strategies in week 2, Communicating those strategies with numbers in week 3.
Ending Process –
This process marks the end of a long relationship. Here, you would be processing and measuring your mentorship outcomes and checking whether or not your goals have been a reality or no
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